How can we thrive amongst the chaos?
Updated: Aug 19
Have you been neglecting your physical and emotional wellbeing?
When I thrive my children thrive, so I need to keep asking myself how I can be at my best to help my kids be more capable and optimistic.
I thought I would share the tips and resources that I have found useful (and I would be really grateful if you could email me your useful strategies: email@example.com)
1. Find a way for your children to do the things they feel passionate about. There are now loads of interactive online courses: Two favourites are: Outschool (https://outschool.com/) is a good example and Cubs / Scouts have also been running live Zoom groups. (Find your local group here: https://www.scouts.org.uk)
2. Stick to routine. 'Having routine and structure at home will help a child feel contained when there are many uncertainties. The British Psychological Society have stated that having family rules, clear boundaries and expectations will help a child feel more secure' .
3. Get support from the Department of Education. If your child has an Education Health Care Plan and won't be returning to school, contact the school now Your child may be eligible for remote 1 to 1 support.
4. Encourage your children to maintain contact with their friends. I have noticed my children becoming increasingly withdrawn, I need to make a point of encouraging them.
5. Don't rush through meals thinking about all the things you 'have' to do next. For optimal digestion meals should be relaxed! Things have slipped in our house and I need to make a point of being more patient and really connecting with my family at meal times.
6. Have you been reaching for the high calorie comfort foods? Here are six simple guidelines to keep in mind to discern between mindless and (more) mindful eating, and bring our bodies and minds back together. 'Informal mindfulness practices for those of us who don't have five minutes to contemplate a raisin'. (https://www.mindful.org/6-ways-practice-mindful-eating/)
7. Find ways to get the kids to do more of what you want them to do. Make it a team thing or a competition or incentivise them with a reward. I'm planning a mass joint effort at cleaning. Everyone cleans / tidies for 1 hour on Sunday followed by a film.
8. Spend some time doing something meaningful to you. Treat this as a priority not a luxury or indulgence!
9. Make time for self care. Have a long bath and try listening to Paul from The Compassionate Mind Foundation ‘Compassion, Fear, Safe Relating and World Change’ (https://www.compassionatewellbeing.com/compassion-safe-relating-and-world-change.html#) or follow one of my guided self care treatments HERE
10. Manage your anxiety - Evelina London have created a leaflet of things you can try when feeling anxious 'Managing your anxiety' can be downloaded HERE. I would also recommend printing out the Worry Tree, it helps us discern wether our worries are fact or opinion, and teaches us to either act on them or let go of anxiety. I get my kids to decorate the tree and keep it on the wall by their bed Worry Tree HERE
I hope some of these tips will help you and your family with the challenges of shielding.
As always please contact me if you have any resources you would like to share or if you would just like to chat - firstname.lastname@example.org
The Compassionate Mind Foundation ‘Compassion, Fear, Safe Relating and World Change’ (https://www.compassionatewellbeing.com/compassion-safe-relating-and-world-change.html#)
Evelina London 'Managing your anxiety'